Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Everyone Is Getting Married Except Me & I'm Okay With It!

So I know we all go through that phase where we want to completely purge ourselves of social media because every platform we use is all of a sudden bombarded by engagement photos, weddings, and babies. Well, it's my turn. Thankfully none of my close friends have gotten engaged yet but I know it's coming for some of them. On top of the impending debt that will surely come along with those weddings, now that I have moved in with my boyfriend, my own interrogation has started.  
  • When are you getting married? 
  • Have you two talked about it? 
  • You've been together for a long time, what are you waiting for? 
  • Have you talked about kids? 
  • Are you going to finish school first? 
LEAVE ME ALONE. This barrage of questioning is usually followed by me politely brushing them off and laughing "Haha oh you know I still have my master's program and he is working so we're going to wait."

When in reality, 
1) We are in no financial place to get hitched. 
2) We've discussed this and he said he wouldn't be proposing until he can afford the ring I want (which I'm fine with, obvi) 
3) My would-be-fiance is leaving to take a coaching job 3 hours away and I refuse to be engaged and planning a wedding essentially on my own. 
And 4) Now I have to go get a martini to forget that you just brought this topic up. 

When and IF  we get married it will be on our own terms. I say if because every few months I go through a phase where I decide that I am never getting married and at some point I'll just start referring to him as my manfriend  instead of my boyfriend, because you know-- *Adults* and we'll just have a common law marriage [is that even a real thing?] 

I think that the biggest point that I have to keep reminding myself of it that, this is our life, and no one else's. Just a few weeks ago I had a group of older ladies dolling out their advice on why couples shouldn't live together before marriage because "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Because what girl doesn't love being compared to livestock? 

Also, a word to the wise: don't order a class ring that essentially looks like an engagement ring. I have learned the hard way... 

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

So it's been a while...

To whomever is reading this, I apologize that it's been so long and thanks for hanging in there and coming back. A little over a year ago I started writing this blog, more for myself than for anything else and I let it go by the waysideI've realized how cathartic it is and how much of a release it is to get it all out to whoever is reading. 

So since my last post a few big things have happened: 

1) I got my first tattoo (I went with my mom♥)

2) I turned 22

3) I celebrated my 6 year anniversary

4) I graduated from college

5) I was accepted to grad school

6) I got my first big kid apartment

7) I moved in with my boyfriend 

8) I got a job at the Cheesecake factory (not that exciting but Mama's gotta pay her bills...and shop)

So a lot of things have happened in the past year and while I've gotten a good grip on who I am and what I believe I'm still struggling a bit with what I'm doing with my life, but I'm working on it. I'm pursuing a degree that interests me, but I still feel like it's isn't my true calling. I'm not really sure what that is yet but I'll let you know when I figure it out.

There's still a couple of changes coming but I think I'll be okay. I don't yet know what life's got in store for me, but here's hoping that a couple prayers and couple glasses of red wine will get me through it.
Stay tuned for more.

Monday, April 21, 2014

Holy Crap I'm Growing Up.

So basically my birthday is this coming Wednesday the 23rd, well me and Shakespeare actually, and I’m going to be the big 2-1, but what I’ve really been realizing is that HOLY HELL I’m growing up. As I was sitting on the train this morning after it arrived over an hour late, I sat next to a nice guy also going to Chicago, and as I read over his shoulder about “statutes of limitations” and all other kinds of legal lingo, I found myself thinking, “Man, that’s cool this guy is gonna be a lawyer one day.” And in that moment I realized that I have panicked my way into now having 3 significantly different life ideas/plans for my future. LAWD HELP ME.

Not only do I have a pretty decent list of schools that I want to look at for graduate programs, but they ALL offer all of the different programs that I’m considering. Basically what happened is that I had my heart set on psychology as a career for so long that now that I’m really considering how I want to live my life in the coming years, I reallllly don’t want to rack of 6-8 more years of debt for something that my heart isn’t ABSOLUTELY set on. So then I was like oh, let me go into Higher Ed, there’s a ton of different options I can do with that… if I want to do the whole “My job pays shit, but it gives me great purpose in life!” I’m not completely sold on that yet, but it’s definitely not out of the question. I think that my experience with Higher Ed professionals here at RU has really set the standard very high and I would love to work with people like them and do what they do. And then at the end of the day, business is in my blood. Every member of my family is some type of small business owner. And yes I know that small businesses struggle much more than regular companies. I am no stranger to the “slow seasons” of life, but if it’s something you love, the money will come right? Not sure if this is absolutely true, but it’s given me enough reason to second guess my major.
I guess at the end of the day I really have to consider:
Money or Happiness?
Tremendous amount of debt, but come out of the gate possibly making $90+ a year?
Do something that I love being a part of now, and also get paid LOTS more to do it? 
They all sound pretty tempting

If you have a good life coach you would recommend, I am all ears, because right now:

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

It's I-Week!

Hi everyone! I apologize for being gone so long. After my last post, now deleted, I was a little disheartened, but after the past weekend and my excitement over the rest of this coming week, I really feel better and want to get back to writing about things that matter to me.

This past weekend really helped me remember why I love not only Alpha Gamma Delta, but also the idea of being Greek as a whole, and everything that it stands for. This past weekend our chapter attended its annual International Reunion Day. IRD is a time for collegiate members along with Alumnae to come together and celebrate another year in AGD as well as also just celebrate everything that Alpha Gamma Delta brings to us in our lives. This year’s theme was “Come Home to ΑΓΔ”. Knowing that I always have a home and a chapter family to depend on is something that I hold very near to my heart as a member of AGD. The support of sisters is something unlike anything else I have ever experienced in my life. I have met women from all walks of life and each and every one has helped me be the woman I am today. Sitting around a table with women who are well beyond their college years talk about their experiences and their sisters just gives me something to look forward to.

When you leave high school or college, I know from experience that sometimes friendships just fall apart- they just don’t last. Being a part of a sisterhood is a bond that lasts a lifetime. One Alumna shared her story of a friendship with a sister who no matter how many months or years have gone passed; reconnect as if no time has passed. These are the bonds that sisterhood brings to your life.
Sisters are the ones that you share your college years with. They’re the ones you laugh with. They’re your Formal date when boys are stupid (believe me, even the good ones stink sometimes). They’re the ones you cry with. You dance with. You shop with. These are the women that you share a special bond with; a bond that cannot be broken.
Now go hug your Sister♥